Liking yourself and feeling good about yourself, comes out of being in harmony, with who you really are. That means having an inner alignment, with what you love, and what brings you most alive.
As you practice bringing yourself into greater harmony, by paying attention to what you love, you increase your self esteem, and feel more life energy coursing through you. This is the real fountain of youth!
My suggestion is this: Do not allow yourself to stay in a situation that is less than life-giving. Transform your circumstances through non-resistance, by focusing on what you would love.
The tiny stream knows in its nature, that it is being drawn to a river, and then to the ocean. There is a magnetic pull towards the greater, and that same pull is at work in you and me.
Happiness eludes a lot of people. There are books written about it. There are pharmaceutical drugs intended to help people feel it more often. We invent and buy things that promise to make us feel just a little bit happier, every day.
Yet, none of these are an easy answer to how to be happy.
When I was a very young woman, just beginning to study personal development, the topic of happiness was something that fascinated me. I noticed that there were some people that were happy pretty much all the time, no matter the circumstances surrounding their lives. What was their secret?
It was around this time that I became exposed to the writings of one of the premier transformational teachers of the early 20th century—Emmet Fox. For many years, thousands of people would pour into Lincoln Center once a week to hear him speak.
One of Emmet’s famous lectures was “How to Be Unhappy.” It may seem a strange topic for a lecture, after all, who wants to be unhappy? Interestingly, however, there were key lessons for all of us in his lecture if we paid attention, not on how to be unhappy but on how to be happy.
Here’s his prescription for unhappiness.
First, be sure to set aside twenty minutes a day. Find a comfortable and quiet place to sit where you’re not likely to be disturbed. Take a few deep breaths and begin to think about yourself.
Every time your mind wanders to something else — your kids, your work, your friend’s thoughtful gesture, the birds singing outside your window — all you need to do is gently and persistently bring your thoughts right back to yourself.
Think about the past and all the mistakes you’ve ever made.
Think of all the time you’ve wasted and all the opportunities you’ve missed.
Especially think about all the ways you’ve been treated badly, or all the injustices that have been brought upon you, or ways in which you’ve been a victim.
Imagine how much better off you’d be right now if people from your past had just treated you properly or the way you deserved!
Remind yourself of the unkind things people have done or said to you. Be sure to go over those incidents in excruciating detail.
And if a particular person has never actually offended you, tell yourself that he or she may have if they’d actually had the chance. They probably talked about you behind your back, in any case.
Now, think about your body and see if you can discover an ache or pain somewhere. (You probably can, if you search long enough).
Then, think about your business or finances. Even if things are going well now, it’s probably just a matter of time before things fall apart. Dwell on that.
If you can just think about yourself in this way for 15 or 20 minutes a day, there’s no doubt about the result.
You WILL be unhappy.
It’s something you can work on and improve upon every time you practice.
Therefore, if unhappiness is a habit that can be practiced and learned, happiness is also a habit that can be practiced and learned. It’s something you can learn, and it’s something you can make progress toward.
All you have to do is, instead of spending 20 minutes a day being self-centered and self-deprecating, spend 20 minutes a day doing the opposite — helping others and feeling gratitude. Think about those you can support and encourage, and what’s good in your life.
Before you know it, you will have an endless source of sustained, abundant happiness in your life, with just 20 minutes of thought exercises and practice every single day.
And that’s how to be happy.
Here’s to your happiness,
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Forgiveness is a shift in perception, which removes a block to the awareness of Love’s presence. There’s a saying that goes, To hold a grudge is to drink a little poison each day and expect the other person to die. It’s true!
Forgiveness is a cleansing of your mental field. It cleanses mis-perceptions; it puts you in a higher vibration. You and I have the power to charge every experience with an opinion, deciding this is good, or this is not good. When you claim something is not good, you have just removed yourself from the opportunity, to transform that experience, claim the good within it, and use that good as a lever for your ever-upward movement in the spiral of your becoming.
Remove the negative charge, shift your perception, and the good that is ever-present in this life experience can make itself known to you.
It was with great sadness that I learned of the passing of my friend and colleague, Dr. Wayne Dyer.
I first met Wayne 30 years ago through our mutual mentor, Jack Bolan. Jack introduced us because he saw that we had something in common—we understood that the invisible side of our nature works to produce the visible side of our results. Since then, Wayne and I worked together often, exploring that invisible side and examining how life works.
Mary Morrissey and Dr. Wayne Dyer
Through his stories and teachings, he helped us laugh at ourselves and he encouraged us to choose who we wanted to be in the world, no matter what our circumstances.
There’s one story he would tell his audiences that I particularly appreciated. He would stand up on stage, hold up an orange and ask, “If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?”
Everyone in the room would look around, unsure of what Wayne was getting at. Inevitably someone would shout out, “Orange juice!” and laughter would erupt.
“Why? Why, when you squeeze an orange, does orange juice come out?” Wayne would ask. Usually no one would know what to say. After a few seconds he’d say, “Because that’s what’s been inside all along.”
When life circumstances squeeze or pressure you, as they undoubtedly will at some point, then what comes out of you is what’s been in you all along. It will either be anger, pain and fear, or it will be love, compassion and understanding. Independent of the circumstances that caused you to be squeezed, what comes out of you is what you’ve been building inside of yourself all along.
Wayne, you’ve shown us how to build something good and beautiful inside of ourselves, so that no matter what happens to us, we will always be the best version of ourselves. Thank you for that.
I am so grateful for the blessings of Wayne’s friendship and for the wisdom he shared with the world. I invite you to join me in the great wave of love that is coming from the Earth to Wayne Dyer’s spirit, lifting him to the highest of all heavens.
Join me in love and gratitude for a truly great teacher,
Have you ever noticed that what you focus on, you start to see more of?
If you’re hungry, you start noticing the restaurants on the street. If you want to buy a new red sports car, all of a sudden you see little red sports cars everywhere.
What you focus on expands. Most of us have a tendency to focus on what’s missing and what’s wrong because we want to fix what’s missing and we want to fill what’s wrong. A much more powerful way of doing this is to focus on what is right and what is here. Because in truth, there really is nothing missing except in your perception.
So right now, in your life, what can you be grateful for? What can you appreciate? What about this amazing universe do you love?
Focus on appreciation and gratitude today and you will find that you are attracting to you by the Law of Attraction, much more of the good that is yours by divine right. Have a great day appreciating and being grateful!
Hold the thought of wholeness even in the presence of what appears to be absence in your life.
Remember, absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence. Your circumstances do not define your possibilities.
If you can shift your perception through a daily gratitude practice and anchor your mind in abundance, then you will re-pattern your thinking and start to see evidence of the abundance that is everywhere present.
When you recognize abundance everywhere and align with it, you call it into your experience. Disregard the current condition and align with abundance.
The mind is a funny thing. For many of us, maybe even for you, when you are ready to create greater success than you have ever known, your mind will dig into the past and tell you why it can’t happen.
When reaching for expanded joy, love, and success, your mind might show you pictures and tell you stories about the failures of your past. It wants to build a case for why it won’t happen now.
You might even find thoughts floating around which seem to tell you that thinking about your failures will protect you if your future ventures fail.
Push the pause button right there!
Here’s what to tell yourself when you catch that kind of thinking happening. Start by inserting the phrase, “Up until now…” Literally say to yourself —even out loud —that up until now those circumstances may have been the case, but starting now, you’re creating new results.
Starting now, you’re inviting a new experience of expanded freedom, love, happiness…whatever it is you are creating.
Watch as the old thinking disperses, making room for expanded good in your life.
When circumstances arise that are less than ideal, you’ll find your mind automatically gets very busy analyzing and stressing, and reviewing the problems. The teachers of Zen aptly call this “monkey mind.” The mind won’t sit still!
The first thing to do when you encounter a challenge is NOT to deal with your circumstances, however tempting that may be. Rather, deal with your inner experience. You want to do whatever it takes to come to a calm center.
First, create peace and calmness inside yourself. Once you have achieved this, what you will find is that the answers you need will automatically start to appear. This is because you are relaxed and open —and receptive to the solution.
Life truly is infinite. The good it offers you is without end.
The question is: What kind of vessel will you bring to life’s ocean? Will you bring a small pot to the infinite sea of life, and leave with just a little good? Will you bring a cracked pot, and complain that good always slips through your fingers? Or will you bring a well-hewn ship and sail out onto the sea, surrounding yourself with all the good and beauty there is?
No matter how big a container you bring, the good of life itself is always greater than you can imagine. Don’t limit yourself, and don’t limit life!