Have you ever paused to think that you are really a human being, and not a human “doing”?
Today is an invitation for you to pause in your normal activity, to set aside your “to do list” and enter deeply into the magnificent feeling of your “being-ness.”
Today is an opportunity to be available to life as it flows through you. Be available to the mystery today. Be available to the awe, rapture and wonder of your own aliveness. Experience the colors that are around you, the sounds, and notice how everything pulses with energy.
When you pause for a moment and let go of your busyness and your “to do list” you open space for appreciating the here and now. From this pause, that voice in you that always beckons you to more makes itself known.
Listen to the voice of love within you; it is the voice of your own beautiful becoming.
Many of us spend the holiday season giving to others, sharing our love, and enjoying it… but we don’t always take the time to take care of ourselves and our own hopes and dreams!
As a result, some of us end up feeling let down, tired, and unprepared to manifest our dreams in the New Year. I felt that way for a long time… but then I discovered something that changed my life, and I want to share it with you!(more…)
How to be happy and have an endless source of sustained, abundant happiness in your life, with just 20 minutes of thought exercises every single day.
Happiness eludes a lot of people. There are books written about it. There are pharmaceutical drugs intended to help people feel it more often. We invent and buy things that promise to make us feel just a little bit happier, every day.
Yet, none of these are an easy answer to how to be happy.
When I was a very young woman, just beginning to study personal development, the topic of happiness was something that fascinated me. I noticed that there were some people that were happy pretty much all the time, no matter the circumstances surrounding their lives. What was their secret?
It was around this time that I became exposed to the writings of one of the premier transformational teachers of the early 20th century—Emmet Fox. For many years, thousands of people would pour into Lincoln Center once a week to hear him speak.
One of Emmet’s famous lectures was “How to Be Unhappy.” It may seem a strange topic for a lecture, after all, who wants to be unhappy? Interestingly, however, there were key lessons for all of us in his lecture if we paid attention, not on how to be unhappy but on how to be happy.
Here’s his prescription for unhappiness.
First, be sure to set aside twenty minutes a day. Find a comfortable and quiet place to sit where you’re not likely to be disturbed. Take a few deep breaths and begin to think about yourself.
Every time your mind wanders to something else — your kids, your work, your friend’s thoughtful gesture, the birds singing outside your window — all you need to do is gently and persistently bring your thoughts right back to yourself.
Think about the past and all the mistakes you’ve ever made.
Think of all the time you’ve wasted and all the opportunities you’ve missed.
Especially think about all the ways you’ve been treated badly, or all the injustices that have been brought upon you, or ways in which you’ve been a victim.
Imagine how much better off you’d be right now if people from your past had just treated you properly or the way you deserved!
Remind yourself of the unkind things people have done or said to you. Be sure to go over those incidents in excruciating detail.
And if a particular person has never actually offended you, tell yourself that he or she may have if they’d actually had the chance. They probably talked about you behind your back, in any case.
Now, think about your body and see if you can discover an ache or pain somewhere. (You probably can, if you search long enough).
Then, think about your business or finances. Even if things are going well now, it’s probably just a matter of time before things fall apart. Dwell on that.
If you can just think about yourself in this way for 15 or 20 minutes a day, there’s no doubt about the result.
You WILL be unhappy.
It’s something you can work on and improve upon every time you practice.
Therefore, if unhappiness is a habit that can be practiced and learned, happiness is also a habit that can be practiced and learned. It’s something you can learn, and it’s something you can make progress toward.
All you have to do is, instead of spending 20 minutes a day being self-centered and self-deprecating, spend 20 minutes a day doing the opposite — helping others and feeling gratitude. Think about those you can support and encourage, and what’s good in your life.
Before you know it, you will have an endless source of sustained, abundant happiness in your life, with just 20 minutes of thought exercises and practice every single day.
And that’s how to be happy.
And now, just one more thing…I have a gift for YOU!
Generate an instant wave of gratitude for yourself and your life – even if it’s only the ability to walk through this day, to see the sky, or to see the smile on a stranger’s face. A grateful heart is a wealthy heart!
Shift your focus away from what seems to be missing or wrong, so that you’re more easily able to direct your awareness toward what you would love to expand and experience more of in your life.
Begin to see golden opportunities that were here all along, but you simply weren’t able to see them from the frequency of fear, doubt, worry and criticism. Gratitude is an open door to a happier, to a healthier, and to a wealthier life!
Research has shown that we all have a learned voice of internal judgment, the inner critic. That internal voice can shut down your genius. When you realize that it doesn’t matter what happened in your upbringing, you are liberated.
As author Tom Robbins writes, It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. When you practice applying the right perception, that inner critic no longer has a hold on you and you open to a whole new experience.
Rather than wallowing in any stagnant negative feelings, find something that you can focus on that you feel passionate about and it will give you life.
The mind is a funny thing. For many of us, maybe even for you, when you are ready to create greater success than you have ever known, your mind will dig into the past and tell you why it can’t happen.
When reaching for expanded joy, love, and success, your mind might show you pictures and tell you stories about the failures of your past. It wants to build a case for why it won’t happen now.
You might even find thoughts floating around which seem to tell you that thinking about your failures will protect you if your future ventures fail.
Push the pause button right there!
Here’s what to tell yourself when you catch that kind of thinking happening. Start by inserting the phrase, “Up until now…” Literally say to yourself —even out loud —that up until now those circumstances may have been the case, but starting now, you’re creating new results.
Starting now, you’re inviting a new experience of expanded freedom, love, happiness…whatever it is you are creating.
Watch as the old thinking disperses, making room for expanded good in your life.
Buddha was once asked a series of questions by his followers. “Are you an angel?” they asked. He said, “No.” “Are you a saint?” they asked. He said, “No.” “Then who are you?” they asked. The Buddha said, “I am awake.”
So today is an opportunity to practice being more wakeful. To be awake is to recognize the miracle of aliveness. We can be awake and, instead of trying to hunt for miracles, we can realize everything is a miracle.
I am reminded that the word “awake” implies that some of the time we will get a little bit sleepy. We will be tempted to agree with conditions before us that aren’t in alignment with the life we would love to create.
So today, be awake to the miracles, and you will see them everywhere and in the most ordinary things.