This Memorial Day, Take Time To Remember And Give Thanks For Those You Have Loved And Lost – And You May Even Want To Invite Them To Reach Out To You!
In the United States this weekend, we’re celebrating Memorial Day, a holiday where we can take time to remember important people in our lives who have passed on from this earthly realm.
We’ve all lost people we care about – parents, grandparents, friends or even a child. And because they’re no longer in physical form, when we miss them we can’t simply pick up the phone or stop by and see them.
But this doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t still connect with those you’ve loved and lost.
In fact, my beloved Aunt Midge made contact with me from the other side.
When I got married in my early 20s, I quickly became very close to my mother-in-law’s sister Midge.
I really grew to love this woman who I called Aunt Midge. She was strong and feisty and she always seemed to know what she wanted in life. She also had a reputation for telling people what to do!
For example: Once day, she came over to my house and was watching me get ready and she said, “You don’t know how to put cream on your face. You have to rub UP, now down! You don’t want to get wrinkles do you? Rub UP!”
All of her directions and advice came from a place of love and care. She was quite the character!
Years later, when Aunt Midge was coming to the end of her life and was beginning to lose some of her faculties, I went to visit her and she said, “I don’t think I’m going to be here much longer, but I want you to know that if there’s a way for me to make contact with you after I’m gone, I’m going to do it.”
I said, “How do you think you might do that?”
And she exclaimed…
“How should I know?! I haven’t been to the other side yet! But if there’s a way to make contact, I’m going to do it!”
Shortly after that, Midge entered the hospital and was in her final days.
When I went to visit her, her face was very dry. I knew how much she loved face cream, so I gently put some on her face.
Frail as she was, she said to me, “Mary, rub UP!” I found myself smiling because I knew that although her body was was leaving us, Midge was still very much in there.
When I got home from the hospital, an odd thing happened.
One of my neighbors, who knew I was interested in spiritual things, stopped by with a book she thought I might like.
The title of the book was Symbols, and it was a dictionary of what particular objects or images symbolized.
My neighbor said, “Something just keeps telling me to give you this book, so I hope you enjoy it!” I thanked her, put the book on my shelf and went about my day.
Later that evening, Aunt Midge passed away.
Three days later I was hosting a memorial service for Midge, and something AMAZING happened…
In preparation for everyone coming to my home to celebrate Midge’s life, I was rushing around cleaning and fussing, wanting everything to be perfect.
I swept the floor thoroughly. When I took the dustpan outside my front door to empty it, I saw something very unusual…
In my driveway right in front of the house, there was a huge whirlwind! As I stood there with my mouth open in shock, it came closer and closer and almost felt as if it would knock me over or push me back into the house!
As the whirlwind came closer to me, I heard a voice say, “Don’t worry about the house. I’m free now! Come dance with me!”
I stood there stunned, not sure what to do or say.
And then I remembered the book about symbols that my neighbor had given me.
I went back into the house, took the book off of the bookshelf and I looked up “whirlwind.”
And do you know what it said? “Symbol of eternal life.”
I know many people who feel they’ve made contact with loved ones who have passed.
This communication might be auditory, such as in the form of someone’s voice like I experienced, you might visually see the person, or they may communicate with you by means of a sign, symbol or signal of some kind.
You may even just feel a gentle presence that they are with you in that moment.
When you connect with someone you care about who has passed, you don’t need anyone else to agree or confirm that this is your loved one speaking to you… you’ll just have a natural sense of knowing that this is them reaching out to you.
If it feels right and true to you, it’s right and true.
If you’d like to connect with someone who has passed, try this…
Invite them to communicate with you! You can say, “Please let me know you’re here” or “If you have a message for me, I am open to receiving it.”
Then, go about your day and see what occurs.
I often invite my mentor, Jack Boland, to connect with me. He passed 25 years ago, but there are times when I hear his voice so clearly, almost like he’s right beside me.
Another thing you can do is sit down and write a loved one who has passed a letter. When you do this, you’re forging a spiritual connection. After you finish your letter, take a few deep breaths, and imagine the letter with wings, being sent into the Infinite, right into the heart and mind of your loved one.
This contact with those on the other side is really about YOU.
When you feel you’ve made contact with a loved one who has passed, you might ask yourself, “Is this real?” or “Can this really be possible?”
And to that I would say, “Who really knows?” But what I do know is that I believe it happened to me, and so I have that experience and that peace of mind.
Every one of us gets touched by death one way or another, but intermixed with what we can see and comprehend is a life in which there is not death, a love in which there is no ending ‒ and this eternal life and love is available to all of us.
So on this Memorial Day, no matter where you are in the world, extend and open your heart to the ones you’ve loved and lost. Consider letting them know you’d love to hear from them. If you feel up to it, write them a letter.
And most importantly, know this: There are messages for you with your name on them from beyond ‒ messages beyond telephones and hugs ‒ that if you are open to receiving, will prove to you that love is eternal.